Why Putting Yourself First Isn't Selfish

self love Oct 31, 2022

Society has guilted us into believing the myth that putting yourself first is selfish. Why, as a society, are we devaluing the importance of putting ourselves first? Taking care of ourselves is fundamental. 

We often hear the phrase “you can’t pour from an empty cup,” and while it’s a great quote to refer to, it’s incredibly realistic. If you are running on empty, how can you possibly pour into your family, friends, or job? You can’t. Taking care of yourself puts you in a position to be better for those around you.

Your Best Self Comes Alive

I no longer put myself before anyone, I’ve done it before, but I won’t do it again. My energy was depleted, and I put myself on auto-pilot resulting in constant burnout. I wasn’t the best version of myself, which was very clear to those around me. I put myself first because I want my energy to be vibrant, my happiness to overflow onto others, and the world to see the best version of who I am. 

Strengthen Relationships

We can’t change anybody but ourselves, but if we all begin to put ourselves first, we will have a culture shift. When you take care of your needs and your needs are being met, you can graciously and genuinely give to others without expectation because your needs are met. When your needs are met, you are happier, which will naturally pour into your relationships. Your relationships will be stronger and more genuine when you care for yourself.

Energy Transfer

Have you ever been in a bad mood, but then you find yourself in the presence of an exuberant person, and you can’t help but smile? Those around you feel the energy you bring to the table, which transfers to others. Your family and kids know they feel it when you are unhappy. But, as you begin to prioritize your needs and take care of them, this happiness transfers into your life in so many ways.

Life Becomes Unenjoyable 

Life becomes unpleasurable when you are running on auto-pilot on the brink of burnout. You no longer find joy in things because you constantly seek a break. Maybe prioritizing yourself means saying no to something. It looks different for everyone. But burnout is avoidable by ensuring your needs are met, and you are getting the essential breaks you need. 

To culture, I’m selfish. But, society has conditioned us to believe that our needs come last, and truthfully, it’s wrong. We are a culture of burnout, unhappiness, and overworking. While, preaching that self-care is essential. Our culture needs to shift and begin to see that we can offer so much more to the world when we value our own needs.


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